Do you ever get the feeling that just because you are trying to prevent something it is bound to happen? That's because you are trying to prevent it. We humans try so hard to make sure that nothing bad happens that we often cause something bad to happen because we are trying to prevent it from happening. What it is I have no clue. Hence why I wrote it instead of some other fantastic sounding noun. The main problem is that people try and prevent themselves from having a life. So maybe life should be the noun. Or maybe we should just keep it an it and so those people who disagree with me can have some idea of an event that it is within their heads so as to delude themselves as to the real problem. The real problem is that people don't like to experience pain, which life is full of. So to prevent our pain we treat it, whatever it may be. We do this through defense mechanisms, being cautious to the point of paranoia and finding some unaccredited site on the internet to back up our fears. And yet these same people drive to work every day, comfort people who are sick, play sports and live in areas that hurricanes hit at least once a year.
Why is this? Because people are only afraid of certain parts of it and therefore seem to think that only the one part of it can affect them. Which brings us to the question of why people are only afraid of certain parts of it. Generally prevention surrounds those things which a person has experienced and doesn't want to experience again (or have other people know that he or she has experienced it), or it is something a person has heard about and doesn't want to experience. The former is the more likely of the two, even if you don't think it is. You see, everybody lies, and that's not just a saying that Dr. House uses, it's true. Everyone has told at least a white lie in their lifetime, if not a larger one. Typically, people who screw up do very well at covering up their tracks so even the people closest to them don't know what they've done. Oh and this isn't just for little screw ups. It is very possible to have a person create a near perfect cover up for a big screw up. People who care what other people think are almost always the ones this applies to. Not wanting to hurt someone you care about is one of those endearing qualities that turns out to be not so endearing in caring people. Hiding things from people only makes the pain worse when the people find out, but worried, caring people don't think that way. And hiding things away just heightens the guilt factor within relationships. A caring person will overcompensate in his or her relationships because of the guilt factor. So when someone suddenly becomes overly loving and helpful, it is probably because they are trying to compensate for some screwup that would have hurt you if you had found out about it. People always have a motive for what they do, and it is always selfish. Humans do things to make themselves feel good. Doing something that doesn't benefit you is against human nature. There always has to be a feeling of satisfaction and benefit in the long run.
